What's Your Fetish, Obsession or Urge?

So I have a blog/forum friend who inspired this next post.  He has a fetish that makes him, in his words "a freak" of sorts.  I honestly believe that no matter who you are, what your upbringing is/was, what your religious beliefs happen to be, what your sexual orientation is, what nationality you are, what color your skin is or what age you are...everyone has a fetish.  Some of us may have a fetish that is looked at by society as a more mild fetish, such as liking feet; meaning you love the nature of the foot, while some of us may have a fetish, such as my blog/forum friend, like being a diaper lover as an adult (ABDL*); meaning you love wearing them, soiling them and the feel of them on you. 


Society has taught us throughout our lives for generations, decades and centuries to be afraid of what is not of the "norm".  It's also taught us to shun those of us who have strange or odd sexual or habitual tendencies.  I think that in itself is sickening.  Who am I, you or the next person or our governments, no matter where we live, to say what is right, wrong, strange, odd, freaky or normal when it comes to our personal preferences in our personal lives?  I see it this way, if it's not hurting another person, if you aren't pushing your beliefs or practices off on someone else unwillingly, if you aren't doing something that breaks the law and of course if you aren't involving children/minors or the handicapped (meaning someone who otherwise cannot make a logical and sound-mind decision on their own) then to each their own...

For instance, I have a mild obsession/fetish (or what I consider a mild case of something that I've heard of being completely out of control-I guess it could be considered a mild case of OCD** as well) with my nails and body cleanliness.  As for my nails, I am obsessive with keeping them neat, manicured/filled, and nice looking.  My friends have always told me that they can tell if I am stressed, upset or not myself by the condition of my nails.  That goes for my fingernails and my toenails.  Then there is the body cleanliness part.  I am very ritualistic in the shower.  When I shower each morning I have a routine.  Every body part is cleaned in sequential order the same way in the same order every day.  I scrub my body hard to the point where I look like I've developed a red blotchy rash across parts of my body.  Now, I don't do it to the point that it's become physically and mentally disturbing and harmful.  I just like to be clean...nothing wrong with that.  I've been that way as far back as I can remember.

I would like to present, if you will, and explain (to the best of my knowledge) 5 different fetishes that may or may not be so widely known to the majority of the human population on our very judgemental small world.  If you find any of this disturbing then stop reading now...otherwise read on my friends.

1. This is for my "friend".  The first I will tell you about is ABDL*, or what is known as an adult diaper lover.  A more exact definition is, "Paraphilic infantilism is a paraphilia characterized by the desire to wear diapers, due to reasons other than medical necessity, and/or be treated as an infant or toddler. It is also characterized by the carrying out of these desires on a regular basis"***

Here are a couple blogs that I've found that may explain it better in their terms:

http://nickthenayl.blogspot.com/

http://confessionsofanabdl.blogspot.com/




2. Meat Fetish.  I watched an episode of Real Sex on HBO once totally on those with meat fetishes.  There were extremists and those that were mostly into wearing things like bacon or steaks on their naked bodies for whatever reasons they had.  Again, a more exact definition: "A sick fetish having to do with getting sexually aroused by putting meat products of people feet or other body parts"***







3. Foot Fetish.  I think this is one of the more common ones.  Besides having a slight one myself...it is a fetish where one admires naked feet of all kinds.  Definition:  "The pure admiration or sexual attraction of bare feet. Usually pertaining to men who can become sexually aroused from the sight of any part of women's feet; including, toes, arches and soles."***









4.  Hair Fetish.  It's a fetish or arousal one gets by a specific length, style or color of another one's hair.  Definition:  "A hair fetish is having the need for the object of one's affections to have a special type, colour, style, etc; of hair in order to be found attractive. This fetish is not exclusive to guys, as many girls find guy's hair to be a major turn-on."***














5.  Latex, leather or rubber Fetish.  I think this is self explanatory.  I see this one discuss, talked about and explained on many late night shows, again such as Real Sex on HBO from time to time.  Definition:  "Having a proclivity in a sexual way- especially when wearing latex, rubber, or leather."***

There are many, many, many, many, many...you get it, more fetishes that I could not possibly name them all on one small little blog entry...but I think you get the point.  I've found a list (compliments of ChaiMedia.com) of The Top 10 Most Common Fetishes:

Top 10 Most Common Fetishes

1. Feet

2. High-heels and knee-high boots

3. Piercing

4. Silk, satin, leather or latex

5. Hands

6. Hair

7. Role playing: doctor, nurse etc.

8. Body parts like flat, tight tummy

9. Balloon

10. Finger-nails art

Anyway, my main objective in writing this blog entry (I'm not sure how good it is) was to bring to light that some or many of us have these urges, fetishes or obsessions and just because we do doesn't mean we are all freaks...or does it?  You never know, the woman/man that sits in the cubicle next to you at the office may be a closet freak and you'd never know it...  But that's for you to wonder!

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*ABDL = Adult Baby and Diaper Lover
**OCD = Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
***Definition taken from "Urban Dictionary" http://www.urbandictionary.com/ 

Christmas & Holiday Traditions from Around the World

I am writing a little excerpt about Holiday Traditions & Holiday Oddities from Around the World.  I have seen and been part of a few that are not "traditional" in the sense of Catholic Mass Type tradition.  I think they are fun to learn about and be part of...so here it goes!

The one that always makes me chuckle is The Pickle Ornament.

To start a tradition that will surely last,
Here's the story about the pickle of glass.
The night before Christmas it's hung on the tree
While everyone's sleeping, it's done secretly.
And on Christmas morning when you arise,
The first one to find it will get a surprise.
A family tradition for all to share
You'll look for the pickle year after year

I'm not quite sure why the German's chose a pickle to hang on their tree but they did.  Why you ask?  Well, here is why...

Here's the pickle “legend” from one Web site: “A very old Christmas eve tradition in Germany was to hide a pickle [ornament] deep in the branches of the family Christmas Tree. The parents hung the pickle last after all the other ornaments were in place. In the morning they knew the most observant child would receive an extra gift from St. Nicholas. The first adult who finds the pickle traditionally gets good luck for the whole year.” This Christmas pickle story, with a few minor variations, can be found all over the Web and in print inside the ornament package. It says that Germans hang a pickle-shaped glass ornament on the Christmas tree hidden away so it's difficult to find. The first child to find it on Christmas morning gets a special treat or an extra present."

I can't forget about Hanukkah.  Hanukkah is a relatively minor holiday in the Jewish year.  In the US, Christmas has brought more attention to it with it's gift-giving traditions.  Gifts are typically given at the time that candles are lit on the Menorah.  This gift giving concept, otherwise known as gelt, serves as a reminder to light the Menorah. 

Another tradition that I found to be quite odd comes from the Czech Republic.  It is a tradition among unmarried woman.  On Christmas Eve, the "single women" try and predict when they will be married or if it's a possibility in the next year.  The simply do this by standing with their backs toward the door of their home, then toss a shoe over their shoulder.  If the shoe lands with the toe facing the door, it means they will be married that next year.  If it faces the other way...obviously not.    

What a way to celebrate the holiday's and ring in the new year!



One I could not pass up on is one about witches and evil spirits.  In Norway, apparently, you should hide your brooms on Christmas Eve!  Who would have thunk it...a broom. 



Supposedly, the witches and evil spirits will come and steal your brooms on the holiday so they can ride around that eve.  Although this belief has faded through the years it hasn't stopped many from still hiding their mops, brooms and sweepers in their closet before hitting the sack!

How about a nice big bucket of KFC...that's Kentucky Fried Chicken if you aren't familiar with the abbreviated term.  Well, in Japan, it is a favorite on Christmas. 



This American favorite is so popular that you might need a reservation just to get a savory bucket of this fried delight!  Yum!

Krampus Night...now if this wouldn't give a little kid nightmares I don't know what will.  I believe that Austria may have the highest rate of good little girls and boys knowing that if they were naughty they might be beaten with a stick by some ill-behaved men running around in scary costumes. 

On December 6th men will dress up in the most scariest devil-like costumes and drunkenly run around the town hitting people with sticks and switches.  This has been known to take place also in Hungary, Bavaria & Slovenia.

One more tradition that I, and this may just be my opinion, find a bit odd as I don't associate pooping with Christmas or the Holidays, is the Pooping Log. 

Tió de Nadal, or "Christmas Log" or "Holiday Log", is a character in Catalan Mythology relating to a tradition in Catalonia.  This tradition is still celebrated Spain where you can purchase your own "log".  The log is hollowed out and a face and legs are added.  You must feed your "log" every day starting December 8th until Christmas Eve or Day depending on when you celebrate it, by feeding I mean place items inside the hollowed out log, such as small candies, fruits, nuts and other miscellaneous items.  On Christmas Eve or Day you put it in your fireplace and beat your "log" with a stick until it poops its contents.  Not that filing a hollowed out log that has a face and legs with household foods and beating it with a stick doesn't seem strange (well to me anyway) there is a song about it:

poop log,
poop turrón,
hazelnuts and cottage cheese,
if you don’t poop well,
I’ll hit you with a stick,
poop log!

And finally, my families Christmas tradition.  I was raised Catholic, but do not practice Catholicism.  But I do celebrate traditionally with my family.  I believe in Santa Clause and wrap gifts each year for my kids and write "FROM:  SANTA" on the tags.  I decorate my house with miscellaneous Santa statues, snowmen, reindeer and decoration, I light holiday scented candles and I decorate a tree with old childhood ornaments, new ones and pretty ribbon and lights.  I love this time of year...it is my favorite.  I bake cookies and send cards. 

 

My side of the family has a HUGE Christmas Eve celebration at someones house each year and there are always so many presents wrapped for the kids under the tree and I love watching each of their faces as they are opening each one.  It's a fun and happy time. 



So to you and yours, I wish you a Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy St. Lucia's Day, Happy Kwanzaa, Merry Las Posadas, Feliz Navidad, Happy Winter Solstice, Happy Bodhi Day...


For a wonderful treat for those friends that like something different go take a look at this...
http://theoldladyatheart.blogspot.com/2010/12/baskets-full-of-pin-up-up-girls-and.html